SIGNS OF A CHEATING SPOUSE AND HOW TO CATCH THEM

The following is a guide to help you determine if your mate is cheating on you. If after reading this guide you find that there is some area of concern do not confront the cheater. This will only cause them to clean up their act and make it more difficult for you to catch them.

This guide is simply that, a guide, a resource for you to use to obtain the peace of mind of knowing the truth. Although, sometimes the truth is hard to deal with. Therefore, I urge you to really think about what you would do if you found out that your suspsions were true. Above all, violence is not the answer. If you can not deal with it, hire a proffessional investigator, then let your attorney handle it from there.

Some Sure Signs Are:

#At the beginning of an affair the mate that is cheating is more attentive to his/her spouse. This is due to guilt that the cheater may be feeling at the time.

#After the affair has been going on for a while the person cheating seems to find fault with the person he/she may be living with to try to justify the affair in their mind.

#Cheating spouses may lose attention in the activities in the home. They don't show interest in the livelihood of you or the children that live in the home. Nor do they have any desires to do any fix-ups to the home (i.e. lawn care, house repairs, etc.....)

#Intuition (gut feeling) that something is not right usually is a BIG sign you may have a cheating problem; when in doubt check them out.

#Cheaters may have a change in sex life (i.e. more sex, less sex) as well as unexplained sexual requests.

#The cheater has a definite change in attitude towards everyone in the home, especially the mate (i.e. if he/she didn't act the way they do, well then maybe I wouldn't be doing the things I do).

#Another sign is Finances. If someone wants to play they have to pay therefore keeping an eye on their monies (i.e. check stubs, bank account balances, credit card bills, etc...) would tell you whether their spending more money than usual.

#Grooming habits will change. Cheaters will be more attentive to their person (i.e. the way they dress, frequent bathing, physical fitness, grooming of their hair, switching of colognes, etc...).

#Physical signs to look for to determine whether or not someone is having an affair is lipstick on the collar, odors of cologne/perfume on a shirt/blouse, checking underwear for secretion stains. You can also check their wallets and/or the glove compartments of their car to see if they left receipts, pieces of paper with phone numbers, addresses, condoms, etc.

WHAT CAN YOU DO?

*You may want to monitor your spouse for a few weeks. During this time keep track of the mileage on their car. Monitor the time they leave for work and the time they come home. *Keep a calendar and note the times, this should help you establish a pattern. *If your mate claims to be working late, check paycheck stubs to verify this overtime. If they will not let you see the stub or it "disappears" simply drive by the job site to see if their car is there. Of course theres always the chance that they may have left their car there and left with someone else, in which case you could wait (in a borrowed car) to see for yourself.

*Be tuned in to home telephone calls when your mate has a tendency to whisper or gives a quick answer and immediately hangs up or when you answer the telephone and get an abrupt hang up. The easiest method to deal with this is to simply dial *69 (Return calling) You can obtain this feature from your phone company for about $5 a month, some phone companies have this feature without having to sign up for it, for a charge of around $.75 each time it is used.

*Many cheaters use cellular telephones to communicate with their lovers. Should your mate have a cellular telephone you may want to get a detailed billing of the calls made from the cellular phone to determine whether a certain number has been frequently called.

*A good area to start looking is for the first number called when your mate first leaves for work and the same number called again right before they return home.

*Female cheaters are more discreet in the selection of a lover . This is most likely because of their concern of Sexually Transmitted Disease's (STD's). Most females are looking for a longer lasting relationship rather than a one night stand *When a female is having an affair she tends to have more of a glow about her, happier than usual (she's getting the attention she needs).

Caught them, now want to know who the other person is?

# There are lots of ways to find out whatever you want to know about this person: first, if you already have a name that you may have found, say in his/her wallet; The first thing to do is check the phone book, this will give you a phone # and address, If its not listed, call directory assistance (sometimes they will have it even if its not listed)

#Not listed or want to know what type (make, model, year, color, tag #, of the car they drive; how much its worth, who they have it financed through) also gives address and date of birth, This information can be obtained by simply visiting your local tag registrar office and ask them to run a MVR (motor vehicle registration check) on the name that you have, some county offices will give this information to you because it is public record, if yours won't, you can easily obtain this information for around $15-25 from a P.I. or information broker.

# Still don't have a name yet? It is a lot easier if you have seen them together and have a tag # off their car, then you can still use the method above, call or visit the DMV and request that they give you a name that belongs to the tag # that you have. You might even tell them that this strange car has been parked in front of your house and you want to know who it belongs to.

# Followed him/her to an address, and want to find out who lives there? Simply visit the local registrar of deeds and ask for a copy of the deed to the address you have (again , public record and easily available). This information will not do you any good though if they rent or live in an apartment, so you will need to use an alternative method, such as: using a search directory on the internet that will give you information from a phone #, a name, or simply by entering the address. There are lots of free search engines to find someone's phone number, name, or address on the web. If you don't have access to a computer, you can call a P.I. or information broker for the information at a cost of around $20

*This site is not to be construed as legal advice. It is for informational purposes only.