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As you look at the diagram above, draw an imaginary line from Husband to God and from Wife to God, think of the lines from Husband to God and from Wife to God as symbolic of a relationship. Notice what happens to the distance between the relationship between Husband and Wife as each line gets closer to God. The closer a Husband and Wife get to God the closer the relationship gets between the Husband and Wife.
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I do not have a degree in counseling or any other formal education entitling me to dispense advice on interpersonal relationships, but I have been 1/2 of a wonderfully rewarding relationship between a man and a woman. So, please humor me here, if you wouldst be so kind.
I hear people saying they wonder how they will know when it is truly love. In my humble opinion God created a perfect mate for each and every one of us on this earth. When you can look at your potential husband/wife and you can honestly say "This is the one that God put upon this earth for me". That, my friend, is love.
I also hear so much about men and women being so much different. Yes, we are different, God made us different to complement each other. However, we all have the same needs and wants. The need to be loved. The need to be accepted as we are. The need to have someone that we can be ourselves around, someone that we are able to leave the mask at the door with. The need for companionship. The need to know that when it seems as if everyone in the world is out to get us, that there is one person that loves us, often in spite of us. The need to be able to look into someones eyes and see ourselves reflected in them, because we are the most important person in that persons world. The need to have someone that we can share our burdens with, because we know that our burdens are theirs. The need to have someone to share their burdens with us, because we know that their burdens are also ours.
A couple of suggestions (I feel stupid even putting these into type, but...)
1. Put God in charge and at the head of the family.
2. Do not ever let the sun go down without settling a disagreement.
3. Take a few minutes 2 or 3 times a day to call your husband/wife, girlfriend/boyfriend, just to say "I love you".
4. Take some time every day to talk to each other as to how each others' day went. Very importantly, LISTEN to what the other is saying.
5. Try not to utter any words in anger.
6. Leave the past in the past. In case of a disagreement deal with the issues that are the cause of the disagreement, not causes of disagreements in the past.
7. Let them know that they are the most important person in your lives, with your words and actions. Don't just assume they know. Maybe they do, but it is great to hear it.
8. Be honest.
9. Pray together for each other.
10. Pray by yourself, each for the other.
11. Put nothing, other than God, before your relationship.
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