Teen parents always seem to get a raw deal from people who are judgemental and narrow minded. Young mother does not neccessarily equate to bad mother. There are many responsible, loving young mothers who are doing a wonderful job regardless of age, so don't judge a book by it's cover. Finding out you're going to be a mother at a young age can be tough, or if the pregnancy was planned you may be in for a few shocks when you see that it's not as easy or as plain sailing as it looks. This little person you are bringing into the world is the most important thing in your life, for the rest of your life. Your prioritys change completely and you have to grow up quickly. I've used this page to provide some useful links aimed at young mothers and pregnant teens, although they may be useful to all mothers . I hope that you will find them useful and let me know if there's anything you'd like me to add.
stereotypes
There are many stereotypes that people still hold up as their preconcieved concept of a teen parent. The reality is often different. Eg: ' Teen parents are all on welfare!
* While critics associate welfare with teen pregnancy, only 7% of non-dependent welfare recipients are teen parents. In his book, The Scapegoat Generation, Mike A. Males showed that states with higher welfare benefits had lower rates of teen pregnancy.
The following are excerpts from an essay referanced below.
Teen pregnancy has been called an "epidemic" and a national emergency. Stereotypes of teen parents abound: they are said to be uneducated, irresponsible, abusive, immoral, and destined to a life of poverty","Census data reveal that the number of teenagers becoming pregnant and bearing children has not changed significantly since the second world war. What has changed are society's norms about marriage and sexual activity. "," Many assume that teens who become pregnant know the least about parenting. However, the literature reveals that pregnant and nonpregnant teens showed no difference in their knowledge of child rearing. However, all teenagers know less about child rearing than older mothers.","Another study, this time of married, rural teen parents, upheld the stereotype that teens are less nurturing and more negative and punitive in their interactions with their children. However, no comparison was made to older parents living in the same area, leaving open the question of what is considered "normal" parenting in the study community. A second study comparing teen and older parents in the same community found no difference in attitudes between the two.","Child welfare workers, then, would be advised to consider community norms when thinking about a teen's child-rearing attitudes. One way to consider this factor is to ask: would the behavior this teenager exhibits be so alarming if it were coming from an adult parent in the same community?","In terms of actual behavior with their children, the authors noted that while young mothers do not appear as equipped as older mothers to provide an environment that enhances their infant's cognitive development (i.e., age-appropriate toys and activities), they were not found to be more punitive than older mothers. Indeed, the children of teen mothers were well within normal developmental limits when studied at eight months of age. This finding came from a study hypothesizing that children of teen parents would have notable developmental delays."When the potential for abuse was examined, studies cited by Buchholz and Korn-Bursztyn indicated that teens are more likely to be reported for maltreatment in cases that become "unsubstantiated." The authors suggest that teen parents may be more carefully scrutinized than older parents.","The authors conclude that the role of age in teen parents' difficulties is much less clear than common assumptions would suggest. Rather, societal disapproval of teenage child bearing has reduced the social supports once available. Therefore, intervention should focus on increasing the number and quality of social supports and on maintaining an awareness of the stress and depression that threaten teen mothers."
Teen parents and contraception
It is a common presumption that babies born to teens are products of their own irresponsibility in having unprotected sex. " 43% of all unintended pregnancies occurred while using contraception [Alan Guttmacher Inst., Facts in Brief, 1993]."
Abortion: Common misconception is that the majority of abortions are peformed on careless teens.FACT:One in four women (26%) obtaining abortions are teens. [AGI, Facts in Brief, 1993]. Therefore 3 in 4 women having abortions are NOT teens.
Budgeting
One of the problems that young mothers often come up against is shortage of money. (Although not all young mothers are living on a budget) Whether because their careers are in their infancy, they decide to stay at home with their child, or they are still pursuing their education. There are many ways of parenting on a budget especially while that child is too young to know the difference, theres no harm in using resources like e_bay to bid for bargain maternity clothes or buying second hand furniture etc. Here are some useful money saving links that you may find useful.
Food wise and toiletry wise, don't be afraid to use coupons, that's what they are there for, if you're on a tight budget, every penny counts. A healthy diet is much more important than fancy new baby clothes. Stretching the Food Dollar Here are some ideas to help cut food costs: Shopping tips: Avoid shopping on an empty stomach. Hungry shoppers buy more than they need. Try bulk food bins. The are often less expensive than packaged foods and you can choose the amount you want. Make a shopping list. Be sure to check what items you have on stock so you’re not tempted to buy extras that you really don’t need. Weigh the cost and value of purchasing convenience foods. For example, you will save ten cents a glass by purchasing orange juice from concentrate and adding your own water instead of paying someone to add the water for you. Store brands and generic products are often less expensive than brand name products with comparable quality. For example, brand name macaroni & cheese costs double the price of the generic product. Be wary of gimmicks. End-of-isle displays are not always specials. Examine the bottom and top of shelves. High-ticket items are often at eye level. Compare prices by the unit to get the best bargain. Avoid buying at convenience stores. You’ll pay for the extra convenience. An apple at the grocery store may cost around 30 cents compared to 75 cents at the convenience store! Buy quantities you can readily use or easily store to prevent spoilage and food waste. Share purchasing large quantities with your roommates. Use coupons only for products that you purchase regularly to prevent buying extras that you don’t really need.
Nutritious Foods Don’t Have To Be Expensive You don’t have to compromise adequate nutrition when finances are tight. Here are some tips to make your food dollar stretch! Grain Products Best Buys: whole grain rice, macaroni, bread, rolled oats, and hot cereals Choose pasta and rice made from whole grain or enriched flour to ensure you are getting their full nutritional value. Plain pasta shapes like macaroni and spaghetti are cheaper than fancy shapes. Buy from bakeries at the end of the day for discounts. Buy whole grain cereals instead of sugary ones. They are more economical and nutritious. Avoid buying rice and pasta mixes. They are ten times the cost of rice and pasta and usually high in fat and salt. Long grain rice is half the cost of minute rice and only takes 15 more minutes to make. Vegetables & Fruit Best Buys: apples, bananas, grapefruit, oranges, rhubarb, frozen juices (especially orange), potatoes, cabbage, carrots, plain frozen veggies, and canned tomatoes.
Buy fresh berries in season and freeze to enjoy at a later date. Buy fresh produce in amounts that you can use before they go bad. Buy 5 carrots or 3 apples if that is all you need. If you buy a bag, split the contents between friends. Buy plain, bagged frozen vegetables instead of vegetables that are boxed and packaged with added sauces. They are half the cost and are usually lower in fat and salt. Eat coleslaw more often. Cabbage is cheaper than lettuce and more nutritious. Pre-cut your own veggies. Keep them sealed in a container or zipper bag to prevent them from drying out. Not all juices are created equally. When choosing a juice ensure that it is a juice, not a drink. Drinks contain a lot of sugar and little nutrition. The best buy is frozen orange juice concentrate. Milk Products Best Buys: Skim milk powder, milk, evaporated milk, processed slices, cheddar cheese, mozzarella, and plain yogurt
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Skim milk powder is inexpensive (approximately half the cost of fluid milk), is easy to store and is a good source of calcium and protein. Use skim milk powder for cooking and baking in sauces, puddings, casseroles, soups, hot cooked cereal, mashed potatoes, and pasta dishes. Mix 1/3 cup (75ml) of milk powder plus 1 cup (250ml) water to reconstitute and use in place of fluid milk. Choose “no-name” brand cheeses. Substitute evaporated milk for cream. Buy plain yogurt and flavor it yourself. Meat & Alternatives Best Buys: peanut butter, dried / canned beans or lentils, eggs, hamburger, blade or rump roast, canned tuna, and utility grade chicken Meats can be the most expensive item on the food budget. Buy cheaper cuts of meat and marinate them or cook at a low temperature. Use dried or canned beans and lentils more often. They are an economical substitute for meat, are lower in fat, and are a good source of fiber. Purchase utility grade poultry. It may be missing a wing or a leg but otherwise it is okay. Plain frozen fish is less expensive than fresh or battered fish. Buy regular hamburger instead of lean, fry then rinse with warm water in a strainer or colander to remove excess fat. The following foods can be kept on hand for quick and easy meal solutions.Remember, buy only the foods that you use or have space to store: Nutritious Pantry Basics: canned salmon, tuna, chicken canned or dried peas, beans, lentils canned fruit, dried fruit and raisins peanut butter canned tomatoes, corn pasta, rice and other grains skim milk powder salt, pepper and other seasonings bread, buns, bagels or pitas apple, oranges or banana potatoes, carrots, onions and cabbage sugar, syrup, jam, oil, vinegar Nutritious Refrigerator Basics: eggs milk, cheese, yogurt margarine Nutritious Freezer Basics: frozen fruit juice concentrates (especially orange juice) frozen vegetables, berries and rhubarb Don't forget that breastfeeding can save money too, one pump( new or second hand), 2 breasts, and willingness to find out as much information as possible to help you succeed don't cost much. Some women can even express by hand. And you can feed baby expressed milk from a little cup or spoon.
How can you save money on your grocery bill? Here are a few tips: Plan a menu. Start with the main items of the meal, often the meat and alternatives, then build the grain products, vegetables and fruit, and milk products around that. Include snacks and special outings on your menu too. Check your fridge – use items that you already have as part of your menu. Make a shopping list. It helps prevent you from forgetting things when you shop. As well, it helps you to buy only the things you need and avoid impulse buys. Post a list on your fridge and make note of things you need as they run out. Before shopping, complete this list by using your menu. Watch those grocery store tricks! Compare costs using unit prices. Shop on a full stomach – if you are hungry, everything looks good! Use the “stoop and rise” method – items at eye level are often more expensive brand names. Resist checkout counter temptations and avoid end–of–the–aisle bargains (they may or may not be bargains). Store food and left–overs properly. Stock up on non–perishable foods. Spoiled food is like money down the drain. referance acknowledgements: http://www.ualberta.ca/HEALTHINFO/eathealthyintro.htm,http://ssw.unc.edu/fcrp/Cspn/vol1_no1/teen_pregnancy_and_parenting.htm