Discussing problems Always begin with something positive when stating the problem Discuss only one problem at a time; that is, be aware of sidetracking Use specific behaviors to describe what is bothersome rather than derogatory labels or overgenerations Admit one’s own role in the development of the problem Actions to solve the problems Focus on the solutions by brainstorming as many solutions as possible Focus on mutuality and compromise by considering solutions that involve change by both partners Offer change something in one’s own behavior Accept, for a beginning, a change less than an ideal solution   Some elements of assertive response Self monitoring of eating Coping with depression you are the 12/07/1999